Friday, March 31, 2006

My boyfriend went to a meeting tonight. This one they asked him to speak in Spanish about one of the steps. So this is considered one of the "non meetings"... meaning that he doesn't consider it going to a 12 step meeting when he's speaking at it. Okkkkkkaayyyy... One of his 12 steps friends called tonight, feeling him out for a ride. I'll call this guy Bangel (name has been changed so everyone in the rooms will think I'm talking about them). Bangel is a user. Now he uses people instead of drugs. He used my boyfriend for quite a few things... a cel phone, food, rides, clothing, food, rides, cel phone minutes, food, rides.... now my boyfriend has finally gotten wise and just listens to him talk and mostly blows him off. Bangel also likes to play the crying game.... you cry and people feel sorry for you, which means they give you stuff. This guy is I would guess in his 30's and able to work (he's had jobs, but comes up with excuses to quit), but of course the rooms encourage him not to work so he goes to as many meetings as he can make. His girlfriend supports him over what welfare doesn't, and the extras he gets from the ones he can get over on. The other day he got over on one guy in the rooms saying he needed diapers for his kid. Grow up Bangel and get a job!

Thursday, March 30, 2006

Ok... my boyfriend is off to another 12 step meeting tonight. He claims he is down to only 2 meetings a week, from going to almost 2 meetings a day. A man in denial. He knows its not healthy to be going to so many, but he's still "meeting brainwashed". The 12 step program brain washes addicts into believing that meetings are the answer and the more you go to the better you will be. They drive addicts into pushing away from their families and thinking of the rooms (the meeting places) as their family. They are brainwashed to always put the people in the rooms first before their families. My boyfriend thinks he's immune to all that but he's been in the room's too long and he's definitely brainwashed, I sometimes wonder if he'll ever get out. I like to think he's strong enough to get out, I pray I'm right.

Wednesday, March 29, 2006

This blog is to vent about the 12 step program and the negative impact it can have on those family members that are living with someone that attends these meetings. This is only my opinion and I'm sure it will make some of you mad (so what else is new)... but it will also be a forum for those of you that think and feel the same way I do to express your feelings. I also welcome those of you that will try to change my mind. My boyfriend is a former heroin addict. He has been clean for over 5 years now. So I am quite familiar with the step program and the people in them. Remember this is my opinion so you can take it for whatever its worth... starting tomorrow... picking apart... get ready!